The day of my 26th birthday had me contemplating about all my past experiences. The journey from childhood to early adulthood is really quite a ride- though not that bumpy, I had my shares of detours and dead ends. Thankfully, one road leads to the other and the journey goes on.
At 26, there are a number of things that I think I know for sure and that’s what I would like to share to you.
- Admit it or not, part of our personality is greatly influenced by the people close to you. My dad has his way of words and is known to be short-tempered and narrow minded. When I was growing up, I found myself easily adopting his ways and the way he use to hurt people with his words. After careful reflection, I decided to be better than my dad and shape a better personality of my own.
- Your real brothers (and sisters, if you have) are the ones who will stick with you through thick and thin. Maybe because we are bound by blood and we have no choice but to help each other during crisis. But because of this invisible bind, you feel that your sibling’s failure and success is yours to live with. I entered a brotherhood and have close people who I call as brod and sis. We thought we would be real brothers bounded by our “fraternity-constitution”, but as life goes on, we all had our separate paths to take and everyone moved on with his/her life. Slowly and unnoticed, we lost hold on each other. In contrast, wherever I go and whatever happens to me, I know where and what is happening to my blood brothers. I consider myself lucky to have two brothers despite our differences.
- Always honor your father and mother. Yeah, I’ve been on that stage- being a rebellious teenager and thinks he is smart enough to deal with the world. But I was wrong then, I still needed my parents not just for financial support but for emotional as well. Our parents will always guide us and lead us to where they think is best for us. Among all the people around us, its only our parents that wishes the best for us genuinely.
FRIENDS and RELATIONSHIPS
- Without great friends, one can easily loose his sanity. There was a moment in my life where I went into a extreme depression. I never told anyone not even my family about my personal struggles and problems. I tried to wear a mask that everything is alright and well. Suddenly, I loose everything and have greatly affected my performance at work. I just can’t bear and its getting out of me. Luckily, a friend came to visit me in my province and “counsel” me on things. After airing out all my negativity, I felt that I regain my sanity and back on the road. From there, I stood up and continue my life’s journey. Without this dear friend of mine, I might just gave up on life that easy. Looking back, I can say that depression is a serious mental and emotional status and can hit anyone.
- Friends are investments. You spend time opening up yourself to them, sharing memories and thoughts. Just like investments, some can be toxic and some can be productive. It takes a lot of wisdom to differentiate one from the other. Again, just like investment, slowly get rid of those toxic ones and keep the productive ones. Can’t figure out the difference? Well, start by evaluating which of your friends brings out the best and in you and which of them merely exhaust your energies.
- Stand by those productive friends whoever and whatever they are. I’ve seen people who easily abandons their dear friend when the first high wind comes along and I pity that guy. And if you happen to know someone who can’t standby with you no matter what, might as well keep your guard and never expect something from them. Don’t expect so that the pain will be easier to bear in the future.
- Value and love your job. Accept all the things that comes with it. Don’t fret about how demanding the job is, you signed up for it then value it.
- Guard your integrity no matter what. Its inevitable that someone really wants to destroy you in front of your boss. Speak your truth silently and prove them wrong.
- Always do what is right and proper for the job. Start by thinking about your role in your company and how careless action can lead to serious disaster.
- Learn from people and if its good for you and your job, adopt it wherever you go.
- Always stay on neutral sides in times of conflict, If you can’t atleast appear staying and taking no sides.
- As much as possible, keep your negative thoughts about others to yourself alone.
- Know who you are messing with and assess your standing in your company. Never pick a fight who can easily drown you.
- As much as possible, Cultivate a positive aura that everybody wants to be with and work with. Easier said than done eh? Just try!
I know at 26, I have a lot of things to learn. I will meet a lot of people and have lots of dead-ends and detours again. Though I’m wary of making mistakes but I’m not afraid of it. Its the fascinating thing about our human experiences, we all have the chance to correct everything and rise above the challenges. Life’s roads are not just made for travel but a journey to enjoy.